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A Mature Man’s Advice for Young Men


By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savor tantalizing pleasure”

When I was young, I was always fascinated by my dad’s bookshelf which was full of books about family dynamics and pragmatic psychology. After reading a wealth of books on my dad’s bookshelf, I started to become interested in the topic of dating and relationships when I was a teenager. In fact, my dad was my first teacher who taught me many practical things that I couldn’t learn at school. Because my dad doesn’t have a son, I don’t know what he has to say if a young man asks him for advice regarding choosing a wife. Out of curiosity, I interviewed my dad and discussed this topic with him. As we had a very interesting conversation, I’ve decided to share it with the general public. Hopefully you’ll find this valuable.

Jade: Dad, if you had a son, what advice would you give him when it comes to choosing a wife?

Dad: The first thing a young man needs to do is to clarify his standards. Write down what his ideal woman should be. I’m not going to say a young man should do this; I think he must do this.

Jade: Why do you think clarifying his standards is so important?

Dad: First of all, having standards makes a young man more confident. Once he knows what kind of women he is looking for, he is more selective, thereby becoming more attractive in women’s eyes. Secondly, after he has clarified his standards, he will start to notice the type of women that he wants in reality. This is not about law of attraction; instead, it’s about actually paying attention to women who fall under his standards in real life.

Jade: Apart from that, what else should a young man do in this regard?

Dad: As time goes by, a man’s standards will change. Actually, if he keeps evolving, probably his standards should change. A 20-year-old man’s standards could look very different from his new standards when he turns 30. The best way to make sure his standards are helpful and healthy is to keep educating himself. In the end, he won’t get what he wants; he will only get who he is. Every girlfriend is there to teach him who he really is. So the most dangerous thing a young man can do is to stop learning – this will do harm to his standards in terms of choosing a wife.