Are you struggling with communicating with your mate? Does it feel like pulling teeth?
Communicating in a relationship is very important. If your mate gives you the Silent Treatment this can also destroy a relationship. Not listening can hurt a relationship. This will cause poor communication and unresolved issues. Have you ever had a mate to cut you off when you speak? This person wants to communicate without hearing your thoughts. This can be a problem which can be harmful to the relationship. There are no perfect relationships, and obstacles will come and go.
7 Effects of Poor Communication In A Relationship
Argumentative Behavior
Argumentative behavior can turn into an ongoing debate. An argumentative debate can be long and stressful to all parties. A couple cannot resolve an issue by yelling at one another. If your mate is argumentative, the best thing to do is to remain calm. This will show your mate that he or she is not getting to your emotions. This will ease the tension of your partner’s argumentative behavior. Try not to raise your voice but communicate effectively. Your mate will get the hint and do the same.
Choosing Not To Listen
This happens when one party has an I don’t care attitude and does not want to listen. Both parties need to listen to one another to make sure the problem is resolved. It is not a one-way street. Both individuals need to communicate and hear one another. Listening can be an effective method to improve a relationship.
Bad Temper
Have you have had a mate who punched walls or threw things during a disagreement? Having a bad temper will not resolve anything. It will only make matters worst. Remaining calm will show the respect needed to resolve disagreements in the relationship.
Silent Treatment/Ignoring
The silent treatment is not healthy in a relationship. This tactic involves:
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Walking away without saying anything.
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Watching TV or reading mail while the person is talking.
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Acting as if you do not exist.
This is a form rejection, punishment, or control. A person should never choose to disconnect from their mate. Especially when there is conflict. During a conflict or disagreement the parties need to talk it out, not remove themselves. If one or both people need a break before discussing the issue communicate that you need space. After the break then come together and discuss the issue.
Nagging
This is when someone is persistently bringing up a topic over and over again to annoy his or her partner. Constantly complaining does not help a relationship. Try communicating with your partner without nagging about the situation.
Verbal or Physical Abuse
Verbal or physical abuse is never the answer when working out any situation. Abuse in general, is harmful, degrading and disrespectful. It’s best to leave the relationship. Go to a safe environment. Do not try to deal with a person who is abusive. Talk to a professional, friend or family member. Do what’s necessary to get the help you need. Call the Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). Visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Going to Bed Upset
My aunt told me to ever ever go to bed upset with my mate. That turned out to be one of the best pieces of advice I ever received. If you have any issues before bedtime communicate and resolve them first. Communicating can be hard. Especially, when you have tension in the air. If you can resolve it before bedtime, you’ll sleep much better.
Summary
Communicating effectively is the key to a healthy relationship. God is love and He wants every human being to resolve their issues with love. Love is kind, peaceful, and gentle, with a great deal of self-control. The elements of love, will help you communicate effectively. Ultimately you will achieve a healthy loving relationship.
Remember this: 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” Keep this scripture close to your heart and everything else will be easy.
